Here's something I wanted to say aloud

If you are a black queer (gay or bisexual) male and still running after everything that looks good because "it looks good" then you are a fool!  Honestly, I don't know how many times I have reiterate that aloud to so-called grown ass men.  Meanwhile, they are the same ones boo-hooing about some "golddigger", "slut bucket", or "game player".  Look, we are all human and are fascinated by the "good looking" but after a certain point in life you have to do a cost-benefit analysis involving the matters of heart.  Of course, we all want someone that is physically attractive, but you also have to someone that shares your common interest, values, and similar life goals.  Additionally, you have to be with someone that is on similar level (economically) or strives to better themselves to your level (or greater).  It's all quite simple and if you cannot see these things because you are too busy getting dicked down or looking to dick somebody down then that is on you...

'Tis is all